Wednesday 1 July 2015

31. Summer has arrived

31. Summer has arrived

How many moments have you lived so far? Ten years contain about 5 million, so go and do the calculations. How many things have happened to you during those minutes, or have you made happen? Billions and billions. When you piece together an identity, a story of who you are, you choose only a fraction of these events as components of the narrative, a narrative already determined by millions of pre-existing ones, and you emphasize some episodes over others, and slant the tale to support your idea of self.
You find yourself a character of a great mad/happy/wonderful and sad novel composed for you for untold centuries. People may remember you, or parts of what made you, when you leave this place. They may remember their version of you.
I believe by being honest and true and living your life your way...they just might remember the character that was actually you.
I feel that I have no one other than myself to please, no parents, no boss, my time and my life are of my own making. I simply please myself, dress as I please, go where I want, do what I want, become who I want to become. Life is all about living it...and I am living my life, and loving what I do, regardless of what others may say, do or think- that isn't important to me, never has been and never will be.
While I see some people, many people, working for tomorrow, thinking and worrying about tomorrow, planning for tomorrow, they are missing their life today, forgetting to live in the now, tomorrow never comes! I live today.
So June eh? A cold wind yet sunny, what's that all about? I spent the first week of June house/dog sitting...then headed south for a week, desperate to feed my wanderlust soul, Barton-on-sea, then Highcliffe, Christchurch, Poole, Milford, Kimmeridge...then up to the Cotswolds on a whistle stop tour...magical, and the summer has arrived, blistering too......


Here are 20 things you don’t owe anyone an explanation for.
  1. You don’t owe anyone a justification for your values and your priorities.
  2. You don’t owe anyone a yes when you want to say no.
  3. You don’t owe anyone an explanation for your relationships, whether lovers or friends.
  4. You don’t owe anyone assistance with their happiness journey at the cost of your own.
  5. You don’t owe anyone a debate around your political views especially when the other person’s mind is made up.
  6. You don’t owe anyone an apology when you are not sorry, and you would make the same decision again.
  7. You don’t owe anyone a rationalization about why investing in yourself is important
  8. You don’t owe anyone the meaning of what you believe in.
  9. You don’t owe anyone a change in your appearance just to please them.
  10. You don’t owe anyone friendship, especially when they do not share your values.
  11. You don’t owe anyone a negative mindset so that you can commiserate with them.
  12. You don’t owe anyone access to information about your life that makes you uncomfortable
  13. You don’t owe anyone gossip material about other people just to fit in.
  14. You don’t owe anyone your time for their projects or for things that matter to them unless they matter to you too.
  15. You don’t owe anyone the commitment to try something “new” just because you were asked.
  16. You don’t owe anyone a safe place for constant complaining and dwelling in their poor choices.
  17. You don’t owe anyone an answer other than the truth to prevent them from being uncomfortable.
  18. You don’t owe anyone your services as a crisis counselor unless you are actually a crisis counselor.
  19. You don’t owe anyone false compliments just to make them feel better.
  20. You don’t owe anyone anything that doesn’t make you feel good and goes against your gut instinct



So, more art on my eBay, and more videos coming, more importantly...more travelling to do!!! Be well -x-